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360 \\ Doing Dry January but Still Struggling? Here’s What’s Really Going On.

If you’re doing Dry January and quietly thinking,
“Why does this still feel so hard?”
you’re not alone—and you’re not weak.

Here’s the truth most people don’t talk about:

Dry January removes the drink.
It does not automatically remove the need the drink was meeting.

Alcohol wasn’t just something you enjoyed.
It was how you:

• unwound after a long day

• shut off your brain

• avoided feeling overwhelmed, lonely, or emotionally flooded

So when you take it away, your nervous system is like,
“Okay… then what?”

That’s why you might be:

• more irritable

• emotionally raw

• restless at night

• craving relief, not alcohol

This isn’t a willpower problem.
It’s a habit loop and a nervous system that hasn’t been taught a new way yet.

And white-knuckling your way to February won’t fix that.

That’s exactly why I created the February Collective.

This is not about labeling yourself.
It’s not about sharing things you’re not ready to share.
And it’s definitely not about perfection.

It is about:

• understanding why your cravings and urges happen

• learning how to regulate without numbing

• breaking the cycle instead of repeating it

• and getting support so you don’t do this alone

Dry January ends.
But what you’re learning about yourself right now matters.

If you’re realizing you want more than just “getting through January,”
this is your next step.

👉 Join the February Collective here
https://setfreesisterhood.thrivecart.com/set-free-sisterhood-collective/

There are limited spots, and we begin soon.

You don’t need more discipline.
You need support and tools that actually work.

With you,
Michelle

BONUS: You’re Not Weak, You’re Unsupported.

You don’t need the whole plan.
Just the next honest step.

Have questions for me? Let's set up a call. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com

Jump in the collective here: https://setfreesisterhood.thrivecart.com/set-free-sisterhood-collective/

 

359 \\ Part 3 - What Do You Actually Want? How to Clarify Your Desires and Move Forward With Intention.

Hey sister,

We’ve spent the last couple weeks reflecting and letting go — and that work matters.

But here’s where most people stop.

They release…
They get clarity…
And then they drift right back into the same patterns.

So this week’s podcast asks the question that changes everything:

What do you actually want?

Not what you should want.
Not what looks good on paper.
Not what keeps everyone else comfortable.

But what you desire for your life — and what it will require to honor that.

In this episode, I talk about:

• Why desire feels uncomfortable (and why that’s not a bad thing)

• How to tell the difference between intuition and pressure

• Breaking desire into real-life categories so it doesn’t stay vague

• Turning what you want into realistic, aligned action — without overwhelm

If you’re tired of living on autopilot and ready to move forward with intention, this one’s for you.

And if this stirred something in you and you know you need support, you don’t have to do this alone.
You can work with me through one-on-one coaching or inside the Collective — both are linked in the show notes.

You don’t need the whole plan.
Just the next honest step.

Have questions for me? Let's set up a call. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com

Jump in the collective here: https://setfreesisterhood.thrivecart.com/set-free-sisterhood-collective/

 

 

358 \\ Part 2- Letting Go...How to let go of what no longer serves you.

After reflecting comes releasing.

Not because anything was a failure—but because some things simply don’t belong in the next season.

In Part 2 of this podcast reflection, I’m sharing what I’m letting go of:

• self-betrayal

• over-functioning

• second-guessing what I already know

• carrying things that were never mine to hold

This year taught me something big:
Ignoring your gut costs more than trusting it ever will.

So this episode is an invitation.
To carry less.
To trust yourself sooner.
To stop dragging old weight into a new season.

 

You’re not starting over.
You’re starting wiser.

And you don’t need more proof—you need more permission.

Here are a few questions to help:

• What habit, belief, or role am I ready to loosen my grip on?

• What would change if I stopped second-guessing myself?

• What does releasing this make room for?

Have questions for me? Let's set up a call. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com

357 \\ Part 1: Looking Back...What This Year Revealed - How to Stop Ignoring Your Gut and Start Trusting Yourself.

Hey friend,

I’ve been sitting with this past year—and not in a highlight-reel kind of way.

The kind where you get honest about what it actually felt like.
The kind where you notice patterns you didn’t want to admit were still there.
The kind where you realize… your body and your gut knew things long before your mind caught up.

In today’s podcast episode (Part 1), I’m sharing what this year revealed to me:

• what surprised me

• what stretched me

• what I ignored longer than I should have

• and how I’ve been learning to listen to my intuition again

Not the loud, anxious voice.
The quiet, steady knowing in your gut.

This episode isn’t about fixing anything.
It’s about awareness.
Because you can’t release what you won’t first acknowledge.

If you’ve felt tired, conflicted, or like something’s been “off” but you couldn’t name it—this one’s for you.

Give yourself permission to pause.
The clarity comes when we stop rushing past ourselves.

 

Here are a few questions to ponder:

• If this past year had a theme, what would it be?

• When did my body or intuition try to get my attention this year?

• What did I know early on but talked myself out of?

• Where did I abandon myself this year?

• What did I tolerate that quietly drained me?

• What am I carrying that no longer fits who I’m becoming?

Have questions for me? Let's set up a call. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com

356 \\ Rest, Abide, and Breathe This December.

In today’s short and soul-saving episode, I’m inviting you to do something most women won’t give themselves permission to do during the holidays: slow down.

We talk about:

• Why your body, mind, and spirit need rest right now

• How to abide in the Lord in simple, doable ways

• Giving yourself permission to say “no” and create margin

• Why I’m taking a short break from the podcast (yes, I’m practicing it too!)

• How to use this time to catch up on 300+ episodes already waiting for you

• A little teaser… the Set Free Sisterhood Collective is coming back in the new year

This episode is your reminder that rest isn’t lazy—rest is obedience.
Take a deep breath and let December be the month you finally exhale.

 

Have questions for me? Let's set up a call. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com

 

 

355 \\ Replay: Overcoming toxic patterns in your relationships and finding freedom through self awareness with Katie Mae

Want more connection and intimacy in your relationships? Listen as Coach Katie Mae and Michelle discuss how self awareness of part of that journey. We love your feedback and how this message blessed you! Send me an email to share your thoughts.

 

Have questions for me? Let's set up a call. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com

 

The Katie Mae Show: https://app.kajabi.com/podcasts/2147637235/feed

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Overcoming Toxic Patterns and Finding Freedom Through Self-Awareness

Introduction:

• Welcome listeners and introduce guests Katie Mae and Michelle

• Preview themes that will be discussed: personal growth journeys, unhealthy relationships, coping mechanisms, self-awareness

Guest Introduction:

• Katie Mae's background as a relationship coach specializing in intimacy and connection

• Her own challenging marriage that led her to focus on personal development through coaching

Unhealthy Relationship Patterns:

• Michelle's reflections on trying to control outcomes rather than influence her spouse

• Katie's realization she was too focused on her relationship, not her own well-being

Coping Mechanisms:

• Katie's past reliance on overdrinking to avoid feelings

• Identifying social anxiety and habit loops around substance use

The Path to Healing:

• Katie's personal therapy and coaching experiences for trauma recovery

• Gaining self-awareness through metacognition and feeling uncomfortable emotions

Influence vs. Control:

• Defining the difference and importance of leading by positive example

• Facing fears of change and avoiding short-term comfort for long-term growth

Overcoming Shame:

• Generational suppression of emotions and giving self-permission to feel

• Recognizing unconscious parenting habits from one's own childhood

Living Regret-Free:

• Embracing imperfection and prioritizing ongoing self-work

• Resources for listeners to continue their personal growth journeys

 

354 \\ Replay: 10 Ways to Overcome Stress and Overwhelm this Holiday Season.

My dear friends, this episode is packed with the top tips I've learned for navigating the holiday season with more peace, joy, and freedom. As someone who has transformed my own relationship with the holidays, I'm so passionate about supporting you in doing the same.

Let's dive in:

1. Managing Social Pressure Without Alcohol: Learn to confidently say "No, thank you" when offered a drink. I've got your back with practical strategies like bringing your own mocktail or non-alcoholic option to avoid that peer pressure.

2. Coping with Emotional Triggers: The holidays can bring up a lot of unresolved emotions. I encourage you to journal, reflect, and communicate your feelings to your loved ones. This will help you process those triggers in a healthy way.

3. Setting Healthy Boundaries: Don't be afraid to ask for help and delegate tasks, my friends. Protecting your time and energy is crucial during this busy season.

4. Embracing Imperfection: Let go of the need for everything to be Pinterest-perfect. Focus on what truly matters most to you and your family.

5. Prioritizing Self-Care: Make time for quiet moments, nourishing meals, and restorative rest. Your mental and physical health should be the priority, always.

6. Rebuilding Alcohol-Free Traditions: Get creative, y'all! Explore new ways to celebrate the holidays that bring you joy, without relying on alcohol.

7. Staying Present and Navigating Family Dynamics: Practice active listening and choose your words wisely when interacting with loved ones. This will help you stay centered.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to approach the holiday season with more intention and freedom. I'm here to inspire you and provide the practical wisdom you need to create the holiday experience you truly desire.

Ready to dive deeper? Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com to schedule a 30-minute Zoom call. I'll be your personal guide as you navigate these next few months with more peace and joy.

Wishing you a blessed holiday season, my friends. I'm here for you.

353 \\ How to Hold Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty.

Let’s get real — a lot of the exhaustion, resentment, and overthinking we feel as women doesn’t come from “doing too much.”
It comes from doing too much for everyone else and not enough for ourselves.

That’s what happens when we don’t have boundaries.

Boundaries aren’t walls.
They’re the guardrails that protect your peace, your energy, and your healing.

They sound like:
➡ “I’m not available for that.”
➡ “I need to think before I commit.”
➡ “I’m not drinking tonight.”

Simple. Direct. No guilt required.

But here’s the truth — holding boundaries is hard at first.
You’ll feel guilty.
People might push back.
You’ll want to explain yourself.

And that’s okay.
Because every time you honor your boundary, you’re telling yourself:
✨ “I’m worth protecting.”
✨ “My peace matters.”
✨ “God gave me permission to rest.”

If you’ve been the fixer, the peacekeeper, or the one who holds everything together — this is your permission to pause, say no, and choose you without apology.

You are not being mean. You’re being healthy.

 

If you're feeling stuck and want personalized support, I'm here. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com. I'd love to walk alongside you in this journey of freedom.

352 \\ Why Can’t We Just Take a Compliment?

Ever notice how a simple “You look beautiful” can make us freeze, squirm, or instantly downplay it? You’re not alone, friend. In this episode, I’m digging into why so many women struggle to receive compliments — and what that says about our self-worth, conditioning, and the “good girl” programming we’ve all been fed.

We’ll talk about:
✨ Why women deflect praise even when we crave validation
✨ How modesty culture and people-pleasing got tangled with our identity
✨ The hidden shame and insecurity behind “oh, it’s nothing”
✨ How to practice actually receiving love, truth, and compliments
✨ A simple mindset shift to start letting goodness in

Because here’s the truth: rejecting compliments doesn’t make you humble — it keeps you small. It’s time to stop deflecting and start receiving.

 

If you're feeling stuck and want personalized support, I'm here. Email me at michelle@setfreesisterhood.com. I'd love to walk alongside you in this journey of freedom.